You’re not lost, you’re just out of touch with yourself
Not that long ago, I caught myself standing in front of my wardrobe thinking: None of this feels like me anymore. It wasn’t just the clothes. It was everything. The meetings, the moodboards, the mission statements. All technically “on brand” for the life I’d built, but increasingly off-centre for the person I was becoming.
That’s the thing about misalignment: it starts quiet. A flicker of discomfort. A background hum of “is this it?” You brush it off, you power through and you tell yourself this is just what being a grown-up feels like. Until one day, the noise gets too loud to ignore and you realise you’ve spent so long trying to be the best version of something that you’ve forgotten to be the truest version of yourself.
It happens to the most capable people I know. And the way back? I believe it starts with self-awareness.
We’ve been taught to look outward
From a young age, we’re trained to chase approval. Goals and grades become KPIs and performance reviews. Success becomes a checklist and worth becomes output. When we feel stuck or uncertain, the advice we’re given is usually external: ask a mentor, follow a blueprint, download yet another framework.
But clarity doesn’t come from someone else’s prescription for you. It comes from asking better questions of yourself. What do I care about now? What energises me and what drains me? What do I keep doing out of habit rather than alignment?
These aren’t soft questions. They’re sharp ones. The kind that cut through the noise, reconnect you to your values, and help you make decisions you can live with, and live well by.
Why most of us get stuck
According to organisational psychologist Dr. Tasha Eurich, 95% of people think they’re self-aware but only 10 to 15% actually are. That’s a staggering gap. And it’s not because people aren’t reflective or emotionally intelligent. It’s because we confuse introspection with overthinking, and we mistake “knowing our personality type” for knowing our actual patterns.
Real self-awareness isn’t “I’m an INFJ” or “I love a colour-coded calendar.” It’s realising that you shut down when you feel dismissed. It’s knowing you thrive in environments where autonomy is trusted. It’s recognising that you’re proudest when you’re honest, not when you’re perfect, and that you’re tired of pretending you’re fine with things you’re not.
That kind of knowing changes things. It’s what helps you stand firm when life tries to drag you away from yourself.
The work isn’t about reinvention
That’s the plot twist most people don’t see coming. Self-awareness isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about remembering who you are underneath all the noise. It’s a powerful way of saying, “That value still matters to me” or “I’ve outgrown that version of success” or “I’m ready to do it differently now”.
It’s not always comfortable. It’s certainly not linear. But it’s always worth it.
Ready to reconnect with you?
If something in you is whispering “I don’t even know who I am anymore” or if you’re simply ready to get back to the version of you that feels the most true, I’ve made something for you.
It’s called The Truth of You, and it’s a free seven-day self-discovery challenge designed to help you reconnect with the values, strengths, stories, and dreams that make you you. No fixing, just thoughtful, honest prompts to help you see yourself more clearly.
The challenge runs from Monday 30th June to Sunday 6th July, with doors closing on Sunday 29th June. You’ll get daily emails with questions, reflections, and encouragement. It’s completely free and open to everyone.
If you’re ready to come back to yourself, you can sign up here. Because knowing yourself isn’t indulgent… it’s a life skill.
And you deserve to live from the truth of you.
